Yeah,

Its an interesting thing when its pressure time yeah, the crunch time. Those intense moments that the fine line between winning and losing is clearly apparent.

I have always wondered how do you become the kind of player that wants the ball in the crunch. Yup, the kind of player that is willing to walk on tight rope anything you do could result in a win or a lost.

I feel like I am closer to being that kind of player. With increased confidence, understanding, decisiveness and creativity I find you feel a lot more settled when the crunch comes.

Its the understanding of the situation and the making of a good decision that will make you relaxed in the crunch.

Now for me to go out and put it to practice it.
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Recently I read that hard work in this day and age is -

Hard work is about risk. It begins when you deal with the thing that you'd rather not deal with: fear of failure, fear of standing out, fear of rejection. Hard work is about training yourself to leap over this barrier and, after you have done that, to do it again the next day. Seth Godin, Small is the New big

I am really appreciating how this can separate who we are and who we will become. What are the things we will have.

Its still a bit scary though, to wake up each day and aim to do this kind of hardwork.

That fear of failure and possibility of flopping is not something that's easy for us to accept.

I have found that I need to be a little more optimisitc about the future. Its easy to do when you are sticking to your routine, but when you are working hard in the way described above. It take a unique amount of self-worth, confidence and awareness to focus on the positive. Esp when the future has not been proven and you are finding out as you go along.

Life is really an adventure! Enjoy it!
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Self worth is one emotional topic for most people that we meet.
The best of us can have our beliefs, thoughts and our worth tested.
Even one of the great persons of our time had her doubts. Mother Theresa's writings found in recent times was clear evidence that our faith can be tested.
My self worth and self concept is being tested daily at times greater than others.

I know though I am an overcomer and I make sure to diagonise the problem correctly and fix it.
Many times though you really need to stick to fixing it. People will almost always prey of your weaknesses verbally or in action and you need to have that focus to work though and develop your self worth.

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I think I really did feel bad about how the game turned out.
Its really hard starting back as an underdog with something I was so good at.
There are some times when I just fumbled the ball and made no so good decisions.

Its interesting how we can get stick just into what we see good at in day to day life and into our habits.

Basketball reminds me how truly challenging it can be to really develop a skill. To change your rountine to really accept a new way of life.

You have got to be ready to get up again when you fall down. When people might laugh or attack you because your are trying something new.

Its during these dark times when you the new kid on the block is still developing that the reasons and the missions and all the plans become blurred. All the good judgement disappears.
Don't tell anyone but you and I both know how hard it is to keep true to your big dream/plan when people ridicule it.
Yeah, you and I both know how the emotion boils within you. Shh keep it to yourself

These dark times are the times that really determine the kind of player you are.
Its what you do with these emotional and bleak times that really determines who you will become.

Stay focused.
Always keep your mission in focus. Of course this means that you have to really have a good mission.
Not goals you can do without them sometimes, but having that mission and focus is very important.

Wow thanks for listening a load has been lifted!
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I have not blogged here in a while, and that is because much of my energy was diverted into building my core Blog in terms of my career.

www.coreykgraham.com/Blog

This Blog is just about expressing myself. Its for those moments, full of emotion and full of clarity.
This time is the feeling if great joy and peace. And I am proud. I am feeling this way because I just invested my night into a 'charitable' cause.
My basketball team's sports club, Checker Hall Braves. I spent some time on building their web presence, like many things we do, it was no back breaking work. It was just about making a commitment to making it happen, and I did that! Also it is now my area of expertise. And a few moments of my time in my area of expertise is worth so much to the Club as they didn't have someone with this particular expertise.
I might not know anything about law. But it take a few moments for someone else to sort that out.
Its not just money no profit organizations need. They need the expertise.

Anyways
Check it out and let me know what you think!

http://checkerhallbraves.wordpress.com

P.S. I am also going to be building on the Caribbean Entertainment Search. I am allowing other people to use it also. It was really a personal tool, but the few people I let use it absolutely love it!
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Recently I was introduced to the concept of an effective decision maker.

An effective decision maker is one who is not afraid of making decisions in a timely fashion. When they make a bad decision, do you know what they do?

That's right they make another decision.

Decision making is one skill which I have been focusing at improving. I have had a habit of making decisions too late.

As I looking deeper into this idea of decision making it came to me that a lot of us don't make decisions effectively.
In some cases we might have 2 options to take and we wait so long to make a decision that one option is taken from us. Which is bad, but what is even worse is that we feel good about it. We feel good that we don't have to make a decision any longer.
The worry and wondering is gone and we can just get to the action. Even worse is that sometimes we feel like we have made an effective decision.

Yeah this is a mindset that really puts a lid on where we want to go, and being able to get what we want.

I am really getting to appreciate that now.

Recently I had been watching an episode of House, where Dr House's team felt that they should do 2 tests because there was nothing else to try. Dr House said no for no other reason than it was a weak decision. They were at a brick wall and House felt that making such a decision was starting down a path that would lead to more weak decision.

That really shocked me. Really rocked something in me. How many things we do in your fast paced lives today which are not conscious decisions?

What was you last week like?

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Yup

That's right, that's something I have been called. It was something I didn't like and I didn't have a clue what ie really meant.

But I have a greater appreciation for it now. Being a creative guy, there were never any lack of ideas. This when coupled with a burning desire to validate myself, to prove myself to others and get rid of some debt.

It caused me to get started on several projects and many of them ending primarily with good potential. But I was never able to realise that potential.

For a long time I have felt very edgy when it comes to having a new idea, and moving it to a decision to implement it.

I realised that recently I had been failing to really plan. Just taking time even to make a list on the things you want to focus on for a year makes a world of difference.
Added to that, taking the time to prepare and take advantage of the opportunities available to you.

Its only recently that I met a guy who said to me, he wakes each morning and look into his mirror and see the man he wants to be and compares it to the man he is now.
For him that is all that matters.

That was interesting to me for sure.

Over the past few days I realised I reached a similar conclusion.

"As I see the person I want to become. And I focus on getting there all the things I need to have will come to me and happen at the right time and in the right way. Most of all I will be able to make the right decisions to allow this to happen to me." Corey Graham 2.0
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Its in our greatest difficulties that give us an opportunity to grow and become greater.

Sometimes to take it to the next level it really causes us to really take some time to stop and think and question ourselves in a serious way. Make us fragile and edgy
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Over the past week I have been made aware of some really hard and serious challenges people around me have been facing and will have to face. I had my own challenges of changes to face.
I guess sometimes we don't quite realise how much some shifts can cause.
I think the thing is that we have to stop and tweak our motive. So we can get the motivation we need to have the zest and passion for life.

Yo tweak our perspective and appreciate that we need to acknowledge there as been a change and acclimatize to the
New climate.

Its really easier said than done, as lots of emotions swirl all over the place. Using Logic we say,
well we see fine,
Things are cool
I not worrying.

But you know, emotionally we see in a different state to where we think we are and we have to take the time to slow it down for a few, breathe, digest the new climate and rise up again ready to learn and grow a little bit.....
And live.

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Express yourself, its important. Be passionate and bold.
There are sometimes you can't get too caught up with what other think or how they will pass judgement on you.

Sometimes you really must just express yourself, confide in someone, spend time commenting or blogging something.

Recently there was someone I knew who said to me they don't spend time to know who they are. They don't like to talk about themselves or thing about themselves. They could bot give me their strengths and weakness. They strengths they did have they did even consider them strengths. You know what that means about their self worth.
They can't value themselves very highly when you consider that this is the way to converse with themselves.
Don't get me wrong they are trying to get better at the things they are doing and become a world-class talent. However their awareness of themselves and their unique gifts. Their combination of strengths and weaknesses are not perceived in a strategic way to make them improve the level of their game.
That's what separates the good coaches from the boy so good. That awareness of their players strengths and weaknesses and they bring able to make the right combination work.
To use strategy specially tweaked to the particular situation and put the right player in the right place and at the right time.
We don't have to look far for upsets in sports. We see it all the time.

Accurate awareness of myself has been one of my challenges over the life and its something I am coming very close to conquering. Being able to know where I need to be and what I need to be doing and at the right time. I am learning that.

Tell me where do you fit? Are you playing the game in the right position and doing the right things at the right times?

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I like to distinguish between a "goal mindset" and a "growth mindset." A person with a "goal mindset" has very tangible, numerical goals to achieve over a specific period of time. Nothing is wrong with clearly defined goals, but there's a better way of thinking that I call a "growth mindset." A growth mindset recognizes goals on the journey, but only as part of a process—not as the end results. John C Maxwell

I read this a few minutes ago and went wow!
This is what i have been doing all along. I have been doing all along! I have always seemed to set these "goals" that were not very specific by described a particular habit i wanted to cultivate or do.

Of late too i have been appreciated how many other things have been changing and how many tangible results i have been getting as a result of a commitment to these seemly not quite finished goals. Its not that your goals should not have targets in them, but growth goals allow you to keep going to keep developing .... they bring greatness. You know the enemy of great is good. If we set good goals and we reach them we tend to think we have arrived and never look at going on to greatness.

The best example of this are the goal oriented new years resolutions when some of them get attained by March ... its like the growth stops. I like goals that speak to a serious personal development. When i know that when I take the time to work the goal so many things around me will change and go to a higher level.
This is mindset that has always been with me, I have always aimed at becoming the person i need to be rather than just finding a wayto get the results. I am glad that I am now able to really grasp what this means!

This is my goal as i ascend to Corey Graham 2.0

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In the world today be place a lot of emphasis on decision making and who is the decision maker. But it only hit me recently.... Do I really know what a good decision looks like? There is certainly not a lot of readily available literature or experts around we can walk up to and say. Teach me how to make good decisions.

This is something I have certainly wrestled with in the last weeks.

I have realised in the last few months that in general we make a lot of conversational decisions. What's a conversational decision? Something we say to keep the conversation going but we haven't taken the time to really commit to that decision.
'Yeah man I going to have to start hitting the gym, infact I will do it next week!'

Ah now you know what I am talking about! Let me take if futher new years resolutions... I know you with me now.
You know we sometimes don't grasp the magnitude of what we are saying with new years resolutions.
This means in June or list of resolutions is still valid, not forgotten.

So we are think now but hmmm, what about if I don't want to do the resolution anymore.... I think that is fine once you made a conscious decision to stop. And of course living with the consequences
Do we do that or do we just discard the documents relating to our new years resolutions court case as null and void? Something we forget? Well we didn't really think it was possible.
In the last week or so I have really understood what it meant to make a real decision. For me waking up. I always go to bed when I a tired. The exception to this is when I am very tired. Often times its at the moment that I hit the bed that I decide when is a good time to wake up. Its always been well I want to wake up 8 pm but anytime before 10 is good.
Lol, and well you know when I was getting up just about 10.

I realised when I have something where I need to definately get up early. I would almost always be up on time. Ready to go. But on the average day. It was hell to wake up.
So I make a more adequate decision recently to get up at a particular time and now I seem to be a lot more willing to drag myself out of bed than before when I was rolling out of bed sometimes a good 2 hours after I first opened my eyes and looked at my clock and said to myself, ok time to get up Corey.
So the power of making a strong decision in AT THE TIME it needed to be made has definately has paid off for me.

What decision are you putting off to be made after its appointed time?
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